Identity is overvalued, in the sense that the investment on solidifying this concept in the mind is a detour from experiencing the real self.
The real self is deeply connected with nature. Nature has no definitions in the way it experiences existence. The “lack of this” or the “need of that” are notions that have been occupying our minds, and compound an artificial reality.
Many realities have been created through the mind including cultures, educational systems, political movements, etc. The debate is endless if we engage in it, and produces no complete happiness.
A Natural/organic mind is pure and free, like a child. It is important to dismiss any type of personal criticism, and reconnect with the core self. Give the mind love and prioritise your own well-being. This will make your mind very strong and wiser.